When I sent out my bachelor questionnaire (read Part 1: Why Are They Single? & Part 2: Dating Habits), most of the guys who responded actually answered the questions. This one response was the exception. Instead, I got a bit of sage, if maybe somewhat jaded, advice from one of the older bachelors about what women want, which suggests I may have a few problems, but what does he know? Also, I didn’t actually ask about how to score with women, but…
“Confidentially, I must say that if you really want to score with women…don’t believe them when they say “I want a nice guy next time.” Women don’t know themselves in a conscious way. What they really want, what they’re attracted to is… a confident bad boy they can change to be nice to them. A problem is he’ll never actually change and if he did, they would get bored with him. I believe a non-respectful bad boy arouses a woman’s libido a lot more than a sweet nice guy. A guy needs to learn not to care too much… or at least to have a healthy indifference. That attracts women a lot more than being a sweet, sappy hungry-looking insecure little boy. They want a guy who is in control of the social situation, can keep the conversation going, listens, and asks just enough questions to allow her to do about 85% of the talking. Women like a guy who not only listens, but understands, and asks for clarification on things as necessary in an effort to get the gist of what it is she’s really trying to say.”
This has some ideas similar to those in the Brigitte Dale video about Nice Guys. Also, the part about a woman wanting a guy she can change is similar to PM Chin‘s acknowledgment in her article Turnabout is Fairplay that women look at men like fixer-uppers. There seem to be some valid points here, but I’m sure it varies since, you know, women vary and stuff. What do you goats think? More specifically, what do you women think? Is there value to this? Some points yes, some points no?
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